The very first relationship that one must successfully consummate in this world is that with himself.
Self-appreciation is just another form of understanding your needs and working towards fulfilling them.
But being a selfless act, the very thought of gifting yourself something seems like a ridiculous idea, doesn’t it?
People spend lavishly when it comes to relatives or close friends but experience a few hiccups when it comes to pampering themselves.
If our moral conscience tells us to love everyone equally then why not shower the same kind of love and affection on ourselves.
What better way to successfully appreciate yourself than to gift yourself something special, something that you have always wanted.
It could be anything from that much-needed vacation or that dress that you have so ardently desired for almost a month now.
It is safe to say that the negligence of self-appreciation and self-acknowledgment is not a very profitable mentality.
We are all good at introspection and hence no other person is more aware of our likes and dislikes.
The mentality and thought process vary from person to person. For example, an introvert may not tell much about himself. You never know if he is happy with being gifted a thriller novel or if he is sad on seeing a box full of chocolates.
Many times gift choices transcend our materialistic preferences. Our choices are very subjective and showcase our deepest wishes and desires.
It is no hard and fast rule that a costly Xbox will always seem to be more attractive than a simple reunion with some of your old buddies.
Some of the different avenues that one can explore to find that all elusive eternal bliss within is mentioned below.
- A visit to orphanages and old age homes
Being a part of something bigger and the ability to provide happiness offers lots of satisfaction.
One random act of kindness is the key to transforming this world into a better place.
“A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money” -John Ruskin
The sight of children playing among themselves and enjoying their life is a delight to behold.
Helping such organizations financially is an excellent way to make yourself as well as somebody else truly happy.
Spending time with these kids can prove to be a great stress buster as well as an excellent way to experience the joy of giving.
Spending time with these kids will without a doubt soothe your soul and help you get in touch with your inner child.
One can also interact with the elderly people who are a storehouse of wisdom and indeed much can be learned from them.
One must remove time from his/her hectic schedule and dedicate it to such people.
- Pursuing a hobby
The kind of hobbies that a person indulges himself in is a quintessential factor in determining the kind of person that he becomes.
“What you do in your free times determines what you’ll be doing when you don’t have a choice” is a perfect summation of the point that is trying to be highlighted.
Learning something new is always beneficial in some way or another whether it is a new language, a new instrument or simply even a new skill.
An idle mind is the devil’s workshop and so one must constantly engage his/her brain in some form of activity thus keeping it sharp and well developed.
There is no age limit to learn something new as it is a never-ending process.
The very point of a hobby is to engage you in a productive activity by using your brain and body without making it a stressful task.
A hobby is always beneficial in the long run.
Different hobbies help you get in touch with different aspects of yourself.
It may also help you to discover new talents of which you were previously unaware of.
Another advantage of pursuing a new hobby is that it will constantly challenge you to become a better version of yourself.
Isn’t that the eventual goal in life.
One can choose from a wide array of choices something that engages as well as soothes you.
The more skills you have, the more developed you are as a person.
The mind is in the perpetual state of development and it should be allowed to flourish by helping yourself by learning a new art once in a while.
Choose something that genuinely interests you and spends enough time to help you become a more knowledgeable or skillful person.
- Unleash the artist within
Unleashing the inner artist within will help you open up your mind to new and compelling ideas.
It will help you to discover your passion and increase your intellect.
Art enriches the soul and provides inspiration for future ventures.
It paves the way for enlightenment and personal development which is essential to one’s well being.
At times just sitting there and doodling can be the greatest soothing factor that you will ever encounter.
- Allocation of personal time
In a world that has become obsessed with clubbing, socializing and so on keeping in touch with your inner self is of utmost importance. Being in the company of friends, colleagues, and family is certainly advisable but a fixed amount of time should also be kept for introspection.
Being alone gives you a certain sense of calmness that is seldom achieved by anything else.
It may seem boring at first but you”ll desperately ask for more once you start to see the results.
The absence of people in your immediate surrounding can at times be quite liberating as one can take part in various activities without the fear of being judged by anyone.
Often in the process of dedicating time for others, we forget to spare time for ourselves.
A person who is alone may also conceive better ideas as it is not influenced by any external factors.
What better gift could there be than to remove some time from this busy world just for yourself?
- Splurge from the savings
This option does not mean that one should recklessly spend all his money on some unwanted luxuries.
It is no secret that all of us have always craved for something very badly and once in a while splurging a little extra on yourself won’t harm you too much.
I know that this seems like a scary option but isn’t your happiness the ultimate goal.
Possession of something that we have always wanted instills a sense of accomplishment among the individual.
Imagine finally being able to buy that PS4 that you always wanted and that too with your own money.
- A healthy lifestyle
No one is forcing you to get a ripped body like Arnold or Sylvester Stallone.
Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals such as dopamine which is a ‘feel good neuron’ inside the brain that will leave you feeling happier and more relaxed.
It also delivers oxygen and nutrients to your tissues and helps your cardiovascular system work more efficiently.
Even a 20-minute jog or some basic physical activity can go a long way in the way you feel about yourself.
Another added benefit would be that in an age where obesity and sloth are on the rise you would be in the best of shapes.
‘A sound mind in a sound body’ is a perfect analogy to sum it up.
“Training gives us an outlet for suppressed energies created by stress and thus tones the spirit just as exercise conditions the body” -Arnold Schwarzenegger
- Ditch the gadgets
Remember the time when group chats actually meant meeting your buddies in person rather than just texting them online.
Those days when no one cared about the followers or likes that one possessed.
Social media is helping us connect with millions of people across the world but are we really connected with our inner self.
Go out and experience the wonder of nature.
With the coming of the digital age there has been an explosion of information in our lives, hence going totally offline once in a while will do you more good than harm.
It is indeed one of the best ways to detox yourself.
“Technology is so much fun but we can drown in our technology. The fog of information can drive out our knowledge.” -Daniel J Boorstin
- Stop comparing
It has now become second nature among people to constantly want bigger and better.
At times this drive can be a great motivating factor in the pursuit of a task but more often than not it makes us feel bad about ourselves.
We need to stop comparing and start enjoying all those things that you have for right now someone else can only dream about the life that you already have.
“I once cried because I didn’t have shoes to play football with my friends, but one day I saw a man who had no feet and I realized how rich I am.” -Zinedine Zidane
- Kill the inner critic
Sometimes it’s more difficult for us to think what’s right about ourselves than what’s wrong.
A little bit of constructive criticism is always good but an abundance of it is the biggest murderer of many dreams.
Many times we are too harsh on ourselves which often makes us feel that we are useless and good for nothing.
Just as we are told to look for the good in others so also we must look for the good in ourselves.
We all act courteously when it comes to others then why can’t we reciprocate the same kind of love and affection to ourselves.
Why are we so afraid to give ourselves that much-needed pat on the back.
“To be beautiful means to accept yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to be accepted by yourself.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
Thus the art of self-appreciation is essential to boost one’s self- esteem and self-confidence.
It is something that each individual must keenly participate in if he wants to keep evolving.
Let us learn to love ourselves the way we love and adore our favorite superstars.
Appreciation is not only a polite gesture but also a reward for the work that we have done be it for ourselves or for others.
In the end, if you do not appreciate yourself no one will.
As Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe said, “As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live”.
It will give you that much needed extra boost of confidence and in most situations, it makes all the difference.
Going that extra round in life when you think you can’t is all that matters.
If you have anything more to share like a personal anecdote or some points that we may have missed you can leave it in the comment section below.